“I hope you find love, but more importantly, I hope you’re strong enough to walk away from what love isn’t.” ~Tiffany Tomiko When I was in my early thirties, I briefly dated someone right after my divorce. It was one of those fast and furious things that had no label and left me wondering if […]
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If You Want Closure After a Breakup: 6 Things You Need to Know
“We eventually learn that emotional closure is our own action.” ~David Deida When my last relationship ended, I didn’t really understand why. After eight years together and still feeling love for each other, my partner walked away saying he didn’t feel able to commit. He didn’t want to work on the relationship because he felt […]
How to Release Your Attachment When You Can’t Let Someone Go
I’m gonna be honest here, I can honestly say that I’ve never had any cords of attachment to a person, place, or thing—that is, until recently. This cord crippled me and broke me down to a point where I questioned who I was and my own personal strength. I think before I tell my story […]
Why I’m in Therapy Again, and Not Ashamed to Share It
“Emotional pain cannot kill you, but running from it can. Allow. Embrace. Let yourself feel. Let yourself heal.” ~Vironika Tugaleva Ah, therapy, my old friend. We meet again. I really thought I’d released you from my life; that I no longer needed your help to maintain my sanity. Boy, was I wrong. Third time’s a […]
It’s Not “Failing” to Leave a Toxic, Abusive Marriage
“Forgive yourself for not knowing better at the time. Forgive yourself for giving away your power. Forgive yourself for past behaviors. Forgive yourself for the survival patterns and traits you picked up while enduring trauma. Forgive yourself for being who you needed to be.” ~Audrey Kitching I have always been an extremely glass-half-full kind of […]
How to Stop Punishing Yourself for Your Breakup
“The most difficult times for many of us are the ones we give ourselves.” ~Pema Chodron After you come out a meaningful relationship that you didn’t foresee ending, you begin to think about everything you did wrong. If you were not the one who wanted to the breakup, you may spend a lot of time […]
We Have to Own Our Part to Heal Our Broken Heart and Find a Deeper Love
“True love does not only encompass the things that make you feel good, it also holds you to a standard of accountability.” ~Monica Johnson I remember the confusion I felt as it slowly began to register to me that he had indeed read all of my messages and was indeed ignoring me. Even though my […]