“Tears are words that need to be written.” ~Paulo Coelho It was lovely to see you today. I haven’t seen you in such a long time. So much has happened since the last time we saw each other. You asked me how I was. I politely replied, “I’m fine” and forced a smile that I […]
“We eventually learn that emotional closure is our own action.” ~David Deida When my last relationship ended, I didn’t really understand why. After eight years together and still feeling love for each other, my partner walked away saying he didn’t feel able to commit. He didn’t want to work on the relationship because he felt […]
“True forgiveness comes when you realize there is something totally radiant inside you, that nobody could ever touch” ~Eckhart Tolle I grew up in an emotionally abusive household. My father was a man who diligently provided for us, but he left me with scars and shattered self-esteem. My mother cooked me my favorite foods and […]
Trigger warning: This post deals with an account of suicide and euthanasia. “Kindness can be its own motive. We are made kind by being kind.” ~Eric Hoffer The first time I sat with a person contemplating suicide, I had no idea until it was too late. I think about her often. She was a stranger. […]
“The less you open your heart to others, the more your heart suffers.” ~Deepak Chopra I used to handle hurtful situations in relationships the same way. I’d get angry, shut down, get irritated, or just give my partner the silent treatment. This just led to more of what I didn’t want—separation, loneliness, and frustration. So […]
“They say that abandonment is a wound that never heals. I say only that an abandoned child never forgets.” ~Mario Balotelli Loss is never an easy experience. However, it is a part of life, so we need to accept it and find ways to cope with it in order to keep moving forward. Whether someone […]
“If your compassion does not include yourself, it is incomplete.” ~Buddha Just the other day, I had one of those moments with my husband, and not the kind of moment they write about in romance novels. The world has been so different these last several months, and so many are feeling the effects of months […]
“You don’t have to be brave all of the time. You are not damaged or defeated. Have patience. Give yourself permission to grieve, to cry, and to heal. Allow a bit of compassion, you’re doing the best you can. We all are.” ~Unknown Growing up, I received the message that everything had to look a certain […]
“You have no friends. You have no enemies. You only have teachers.” ~Ancient Proverb My very wise aunt, a talented psychotherapist and one of my spiritual teachers, has told me many times that the people, places, and things that trigger us are just “props in our spiritual drama.” This phrase has stuck with me for […]
“In case no one told you today: You’re beautiful. You’re loved. You’re needed. You’re alive for a reason. You’re stronger than you think. You’re going to get through this. I’m glad you’re alive. Don’t give up.” ~Unknown I was fourteen years old and it was a holiday of firsts: my first holiday away from my […]
