“Your inner critic is simply a part of you that needs more self-love.” ~Amy Leigh Mercee We all have that critical and judgmental inner voice that tells us we’re not good enough, smart enough, pretty enough, etc. It tells us we don’t do anything right. It calls us stupid. It compares us to other people […]
“Stop shoulding on yourself.” ~Albert Ellis I was buried under a pile of shoulds for the first thirty-two years of my life. Some of those shoulds were put on me by the adults in my life, some were heaped on because I am a middle child, but most were self-imposed thanks to cultural and peer influence. […]
“Some people are in such utter darkness that they will burn you just to see a light. Try not to take it personally.” ~Kamand Kojouri The saying goes that money makes the world go round, but of course that’s not true. It’s our relationships. How we relate to other people and how they relate to […]
“No person is your friend who demands your silence or denies your right to grow.” ~Alice Walker When I was a child and in my early teenage years, I was a free bird. I laughed easily, loved life, never worried, and dreamed big. I thought the best of others, the glass was always full. I […]
“There is a huge amount of freedom that comes when you take nothing personally.” ~Don Miguel Ruiz Oh man, if I had a dollar for every time I took something personally… I’d be rich by now. When I quit my corporate job in Paris and took a year off traveling people would often ask me, […]
“I don’t always make the best choices, but today I choose compassion over intolerance, sympathy over hatred, and love over fear.” ~LJ Vanier It’s crazy to me now, to look back and realize how freaking hard I was on myself for decades. Had I ever talked to anyone else the way I talked to myself, it […]
“A meaningful life is not being rich, being popular, or being perfect. It’s about being real, being humble, being able to share ourselves and touch the lives of others.” ~Unknown Hello, I’m Kortney, and I’m a recovering perfectionist. Like so many of us, I spent the greater part of my life believing that unless something […]
“You just never know what someone is dealing with behind closed doors. No matter how happy someone looks, how loud their laugh is, how big their smile is, there can still be a level of hurt that is indescribable. So be kind. Even when others are not, choose to be kind.” ~Andrea Russett Everyone is […]
“Make the most of yourself… for that is all there is of you.” ~Ralph Waldo Emerson Every day, it was more or less the same. I presented an edited version of myself to the world. I felt a deep level of discomfort with the idea of letting myself go. Could I? Should I? The answer […]
“It’s easy to judge. It’s more difficult to understand. Understanding requires compassion, patience, and a willingness to believe that good hearts sometimes choose poor methods. Through judging, we separate. Through understanding, we grow.” ~Doe Zantamata “Why doesn’t he say something?” I was sitting at the dinner table with my partner and friends. Everyone was interacting […]
